Mature Love

This is MATURE LOVE!

No matter your political preference what resonates is the love that this couple share for one another.  I actually cried when I saw this embrace.  Real or imagined via this picture, this is the type of love that we all dream of having.
I am a little older now and what I once considered ideal love, I have found not to be so  ideal.  I have an older  sister and have posed the question to her, "What is really important for you to have in a man at age 60?" What I do know is that my thoughts have changed over the years. Let me see if I can recap by age.
Twenties:  College educated, good looking and a job. I can remember that a good looking man with a job was a catch.  In my twenties, I was thinking about starting  to have children  so great genes were important because God forbid  that I would have an ugly baby and a job meant that we could pull together to buy the things that we wanted and could have a social life.  Basically we both are broke.
Thirties: College educated, ok looking and a career. Hey, baby making was done.  Genes weren't as important.  A career meant that we could start empire building and acquire bigger and better things. Meaningful conversations  and family became more important.
Forties: Where I am now, Smart, financially savvy, and healthy.  Big difference now.  This is where maturity starts to kick-in.  I know now that a degree does not make a person.  I have learned that there are many millionaires that are successful without a college degree. Having someone who is intelligent is far better than just looking for someone with a college degree.  Finances are important.  It is more prudent that a person knows how to effectively manage money and is able to plan for retirement.  I know a lot of financially corrupt  and bankrupt millionaires who lost fortunes and will have to be on a job while on their death beds. Having someone who is healthy and in shape is more important than just being good looking. When you are thinking about traveling and enjoying a retirement, it will be a bummer not to be able to enjoy life because of health issues.  Being healthy also means that a fulfilling sex  life is possible.  Any forty year old woman will tell you that she is in her sexual prime and sex is important.  At forty all of the sexual hang-ups seem to disappear.
I believe that mature love  begins when we are in our forties.  Life experiences have taught us what is important.  We have learned that we cannot fight every battle.  We are self assure and we understand who we are and have determined our core values.  Pure and mature love is possible.  Our old love has grown or new love is found.  I am not sure what the Fifties will bring but I know that I want what I feel when I look at the picture above of Obamas.

Here are two links to books that have helped me to mature:

His Needs Her Needs

5 Love Languages

Uncle Tom's Cabin....Not at all what I thought!

I just finished reading Uncle Tom's Cabin.  I never read it in school and was curious.  I have always heard about this book but never read it.  I was further drawn to read it because I recently read some where that this book was very instrumental in getting slavery abolished in America.  I never knew that abotu this book. I now understand why.  Harriet Beecher Stowe has my utmost respect after reading her book.  She was able to capture the essence of the brutality and inhumanity of slavery in a way that ALL could understand.  She did an excellent job of telling the story and opnions of both the Southern slave owner and  the Northern abolitionist. I was surprise to know that the Northern Abolitionists were not as noble as I was lead to believe.  The last paragraph of the book sums it all up beautifully. " A day of grace is yet held out to us.  Both North and South have been guilty before God; and the Christian Church has a heavy account to answer.  Not by combining together, to protect injustice and cruelty, and making a common capital sin, is this Union to be saved, - but by repentance, justice and mercy; for, not sure is the eternal law by which the millstone sinks in the ocean, than that stronger law by which injustice  and cruelty shall bring on nations the wrath of Almight God!".....  Wow!  Good stuff.  This book should go back to being a MUST Read. How soon we forget or never really come to understand.

Great Book at a Great Price about Great Women

I just read the best book! Cokie Roberts absolutely amazed me with her insightfulness.  This book discusses all of the roles that women have played.  Most importantly Cokie has a story of success for all women no matter what age, religion, race, or political belief. I absolutely could not put this book down.  This is a book that ALL women can truly be proud of and embrace. I, especially as a Black woman, am proud about the way that she paid homage to the works of black women like Ida B. Wells and Dorothy Height.

Elizabeth Edwards..... Grace under fire

My heart, love and prayers go out to the children and friends of Elizabeth Edwards.  My blog is always about happiness and love.  So the context in which I want to discuss Elizabeth Edwards will not deviate from the format of my blog.  I want to celebrate her life.  I applaud her courage, her faith and fortitude.  She is the type of woman whom I want to grow up to be.  I see her as a woman who was determine not to just let the heart aches of destroy the essence of who she was as a person. Life's thorns did not diminish what she stood for, what she believed in and how much she loved.  She paid love forward and now her children will reap the benefits of her love and kindness to others.  Her nurturing soul has loved so many others that her children will never be without love.  What a legacy for a mother to leave her children.  Rest in peace Elizabeth for you have done the work that God had for you to do on this earth. You have earn your heavenly crown with many jewels.  You are grace under fire and an example we all can follow. Her children will have a treasury of her goodness.  She is truly grace under fire.. an example that we all can follow.

Really! How is Obama Doing?

I am asking the infamous question.  How do you think Obama is doing?  I have seen many polls on television but I would  like to pose this question to the people who I know.  I am curious if the opinions of my friend follow mainstream America.  In an effort to provide consistency and some accuracy, I am asking the you comment giving one thing that our President has done effectively and one thing that needs improvement. Also comment about our economy.  Do you feel that our economy is improving and why?  If you are shy about voicing your opinion then take the poll on my blog page which is anonymous. Curiosity is killing the cat right now.  


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